The friendships that survive a move, a job change and a decade, and the logistics that keep them alive.
Sometime is where friendships go to die, because the coordination cost gets paid fresh every single time. What a recurring slot actually does, in honest numbers, and the one friendship where it backfired.
I spent two years trying to repair something that was not broken, only over. What I eventually understood about friendships that simply finish.
Not shared interests — a recurring thing that happens whether or not anyone is in the mood. Six years of running a choir made the pattern impossible to miss.
Eleven years running a neighbourhood association taught me that the warmth is not what keeps people together. Somebody sending the message is.
